When you start texting your ex after a breakup, your ex will respond in one of four ways:
1.) No response at all
2.) A neutral response
3.) A positive response
4.) A negative response
When you get a response from your ex, the next question is how to properly handle your response in a way that doesn’t ruin your chances of getting back together. Sounds easy enough, but you have to exercise restraint here or you can really mess things up.
Why moderation?
You need restraint and self-control because when you haven’t talked to your ex in a while and they suddenly respond to your texts (especially if they do so in a positive way), your first instinct will be to have a long conversation. long conversation with them. You’ll be so happy to hear from them that you’ll want to keep texting them while they’re talking to you.
This seems logical, right? I mean they’re talking to you and they seem happy about it, why would you want to end the conversation?
It may seem logical, but it’s not a good way to evoke feelings from your ex that will make him want you back. Every time he tries to text her ex into her life, he always wants to be the first to end the conversation. Here are 3 reasons why…
1.) By being the first to end the conversation and ending it early (before it dies on its own), you make your ex miss you and yearn for you more. They can’t “fill up” on you, which makes them look forward to the next chat.
2.) Ending the conversation first gives you the power to end things on a high note.
After you and your ex have shared a fun moment or positive memory, you can end the conversation and their mind will focus on those positive feelings toward you. If you wait too long or drag out the conversation, you run the risk of it ending in a fight or becoming boring and monotonous, causing your ex’s mind to focus on those negative or neutral feelings towards you.
3.) It makes you seem confident and not needy or desperate.
When you text your ex and end the conversation first, you present yourself as a confident person who has places to be and people to see. It shows your ex that you’re not just sitting around desperate and needy trying to spend every second you can with them or begging them to keep talking to you.