What one can find is that they themselves can feel good, even if they are not in a relationship. Then it will be clear that they are not going to depend on anyone else to experience positive feelings.
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Being like this is very likely to prevent them from starting a relationship with someone just because they feel down. It might be relatively easy for them to wait until they meet someone they really want to be with.
A Different Need
Therefore, if you break up with someone, it will show that you really want to share your life with them. Not only will there be an attraction between them, there will be the values they have in common.
This person will then add something to your life, just as you will add something to another person’s life. However, what is exchanged between them will not be something they must provide themselves.
The big difference
Ultimately, one will behave as an interdependent human being, as opposed to a dependent human being. There will be what they can give themselves and there will be what they cannot.
Receiving positive feedback from your partner will naturally have a nurturing effect on them. What will be different here is that the fire that is burning inside them will not go out if this person were to disappear.
an analogy
One way to understand this would be to imagine that you had a dog before you met this person, you will have a dog when you are with them, and you will have a dog if this comes to an end. This dog will be treated differently throughout these different stages, but it will still be there.
Your self-esteem might drop a bit if your relationship were to come to an end, but it might not be long until it rises once more. So they’re not going to end up hating themselves at this point.
A balanced human being
In a way, your level of self-esteem will serve as a safety net that will prevent you from hitting rock bottom if your relationship comes to an end. They will be much more resistant than they would be otherwise.
It may have taken them several years to reach this point in their own development. For most of their lives, they may have been dependent on someone else; Lacking the ability to experience positive feelings.
a different scenario
If, on the other hand, one finds that one cannot feel good about oneself unless one is in a relationship, one is likely to show that one is emotionally dependent on other people when it comes to experiencing positive feelings.
Now someone like that could end up with just about anyone, or they could be a lot more selective. Either way, they are likely to end up putting a lot of pressure on another person to make them feel good.
Needy
Without realizing it, one can see the other person as a father figure. One will then be a child who is missing something and his partner will be an adult who is there to contribute what they are entangling.
One of the things that will make you do what you can to keep the relationship going will be the fear of what will happen if the relationship were to end. The most important thing, then, is going to be that they make sure that they are not single.
a great effect
Unlike the person above, one will have a dog when in a relationship, but will not have had one before and certainly not after. Being in a relationship is not going to awaken the good feelings you already experience; it will cause them to experience feelings that they normally do not experience.
And, since they do not usually experience these feelings, it is normal for them to become dependent on their partner. This person will be seen as the source of these good feelings.
a long way down
Therefore, if this person were to end the relationship, one would likely end up feeling very depressed. To make up for this, they might end up eating/drinking too much, or they might find someone else to plug the hole that has opened up inside of them.
If one were to look back on their life, they may find that they have always found it difficult to feel good about themselves. What this can illustrate is that their younger years were a time when they didn’t get the kind of attention they need to develop in the right way.
Awareness
In other words, they may have been abused and/or neglected when they were younger. However, the most important thing now is that you do something about what is happening.
With the help of a therapist or a healer, for example, they will gradually be able to heal themselves. It all starts with them taking the first step and not giving up.