Salvaging a relationship that is failing or recently ended is not as impossible as it seems. But fixing your relationship in the short term is only part of the equation. If nothing has really changed, it will soon be over for good. Instead, discover simple changes you can make to keep your lover coming back for more—forever!
What went wrong?
There is a pattern to how relationships end. It begins when one of the partners is vaguely unhappy with things, but doesn’t know why. So instead of expressing their unhappiness, they decide that it must be the other person’s fault and secretly start to leave.
Whether your partner is in the process of leaving or has already left, you can bring them back. I’m going to let you in on a little secret: boredom is the number one reason why people feel dissatisfied and start leaving a relationship.
Think back to when you first met. You had a life of your own, friends to hang out with, and activities that you enjoyed doing. That is what made you attractive and exciting. Many of us give up all of that to make our lives revolve around our partner like the earth revolves around the sun. Your partner is not the center of the universe and does not want to be! Behaving like one takes all the mystery and excitement out of the relationship and leaves your partner feeling bored or even suffocated.
First rule to live by: Never lose yourself in the relationship.
Healthy men want an independent woman. Healthy women want strong, self-sufficient men. No one wants to get involved with someone who needs them so much that they can’t have a life of their own.
People chase things they think they can’t have, and the thrill of the chase is part of the thrill of a new relationship. Help yourself on a silver platter and the challenge is over. Your partner is bored. And in his mind boredom = falling out of love.
So get back to your life from now on! Take up your old hobbies. Reconnect with friends and make them a priority. Take care of your appearance as if you are starting to date again. Bring back the person your partner fell in love with, and then some!
Second rule to live by: Learn to dance (“I need space”)
There is a certain kind of dance that happy couples do. It’s a constant cycle of coming together and coming apart that keeps them from stepping on each other’s toes.
The best way to save a relationship is to give your partner plenty of space when they need and/or ask for it. Some people need more space than others (usually men!), but everyone needs alone time and distance from their partner at least once in a while. So don’t take it personally and try not to see it as permanent.
Giving someone enough time and space to miss you is a great way to keep a relationship fresh and exciting. When you go online again, make sure you do it in a nice and welcoming way. Blame trips are not a way to save a relationship or bring an ex back.
If they are separated, this is very, very important! Even though all you want to do is hear his voice or hug him again, chasing an ex never works. In fact, it can completely ruin your chances. Leave your partner alone and they’ll come back when they’re ready, especially if you follow rule number 1.