As many often advise, visit your past once in a while, but don’t rent a house there…but don’t many of us love to sing the title track to ‘poor me’? Do we do this to seek empathy or simply to prevent ourselves from making the same mistakes over and over again? I was once told, to forget old memories, you have to create new ones… sad, the same thing is so strange and desperate for those who have lost their loved ones due to catastrophes or tragedies beyond their control.
This is all so incisively ironic. Sometimes, based on the past, we allocate our current actions to avoid setbacks in the near future. Whereas sometimes we shrug from the past to avoid losing what we have (for the future). But why does the circle of life return us to the same place, to the same place where we were a few years or months ago? Is it to test us if we have learned our lesson well or simply to heal us?
The sooner we are free of regrets, the faster we will become more receptive to a new wave of exciting experiences. That is, why go through life walking backwards down the street. Forget ‘what lies behind’ and strive for ‘what lies ahead’. To that end, I would say that a positive approach to dealing with past mishaps would be to not ask ‘why me?’ In fact, ‘why not me’?
Some of us, to coin a phrase, have become masochists. We get satisfaction from revisiting our painful past, but then again, who am I to judge?
I always see it this way, maybe some people came into our lives to toughen us up while others to help us get in touch with our pent up emotions. The advent of some may have carved wounds in us, while others may have healed wounds we never knew would prevail. Time waits for no one and the joyful moments spent with our loved ones simply become cherished memories that continue to gleam long after they are gone. So, let’s learn to live in the moment happily, enjoy everything we find and enjoy, without relying on the past, expectations or profit.
‘better an oops than what if’ – isn’t it better to fail while doing something than to have to live with the regret of not trying when given the chance? Also, the sooner we close old doors, the sooner new ones will open. So why does the doubt go through them fearing the past. Why not consider the outputs as inputs somewhere else?