Flirting is actually intuitive, but it can be hard to do if you’re in the wrong mindset and don’t understand the technicalities behind it. Fortunately, because of the dating community, it’s down to a science, so learning how to flirt won’t be so hard after all!
In this article, if you are still confused about how to flirt, two specific flirting techniques will be discussed to help make flirting easier. They are push/pull and a playfully challenging environment.
First of all, when we say that flirting is intuitive, it actually is, since when we tend to feel comfortable with someone and like someone, we tend to tease that person in a playful way, or Challenge them playfully.
Think of a younger sibling or a close friend. On numerous occasions, you may have made fun of them and even challenged them on something, either in a serious or funny way, because you knew they wouldn’t hate you for it or take it too seriously.
This will make the person actually like you more as contradictory as it sounds and it will make the relationship you have more exciting as it is not just an emotion.
This concept applies directly to meeting girls, as for her to be attracted to and turned on by you at that moment, your mindset must be one of challenging her playfully. The idea is to challenge and do it in a fun way, as one or the other could lead to being too cute or too aggressive, which turns girls off and humans in general, specifically in a cold approach situation.
Now that you understand this, you should also understand that flirting is mostly about subcommunication and what you say is less relevant but still has a place in the interaction. Remember this, as this theme will come up again and again in whatever material you study and in whatever article you read.
So we started to play defiantly, So what is push/pull? Push/pull is similar to a play challenge, but it can be explained more technically.
Definition:
To explain, push-pull is any statement, action, or mannerism that emotionally pushes a person away and pulls a person’s emotions toward you simultaneously.
Ex:
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I hate that I like you.
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You’re so annoying, but you’re kind of charming.
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We Wouldn’t Get Along (Classic Old School Pick Up)
Push/pull can also be a bit more creative and complex when giving the girl compliments as teasing.
Ex:
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Why are you so adorable? Stop making me fall in love with you… (she said with a smile but slight annoyance)
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You’re too cute and charming, but that’s why you make me nervous, so I guess we can’t talk anymore. (He said she with a smile and joking tone)
Push/pull can also be done via physical mannerisms. An example is that you could move her closer and then if she says something you don’t like, you move her away slightly or let go of her hand and look away. This will make her chase more and turn her on. When learning how to flirt, you should try to give him a more amazing experience in interaction through multiple channels, and physical is one of them.
Another example is that you can also go for the kiss, wait for her to lunge forward to kiss you, and then turn your head before she kisses you and say “I’m too shy” while smiling and teasing her. This move is obviously done if she was looking at your lips and looking very sexually aroused.
Now, if you haven’t figured it out yet, because flirting is mostly in subcommunication, you can technically say anything and turn it into a tug of war. Your tone of voice, facial gestures, eye contact, and body language can tell a completely different message compared to what you’re actually saying verbally.
Ex:
You: “I think we really get along.”
Now this sentence on the surface level is a compliment and not really a joking push or challenge. However, let’s say you said “I think we really get along,” but you said it with a tilted head, a slightly skeptical tone of voice, and narrowed eyes as you crossed your arms. The message is completely different and now it is a tug of war, since the words are drawing her to you emotionally, but the subcommunications are pulling her away emotionally as you seem to be unsure of her.
This concept when used correctly envelops the girl and creates feelings of attraction. However, what they also do is hook their attention on you.
Hooking up is important as during the first initial moments of the interaction, the girl’s attention will be diverted to whatever she was doing if she can’t see some kind of value in you at the time, or arousal. This isn’t because she’s bad, but because she’s just human nature, as we won’t focus much on anything that doesn’t grab our attention or affect us emotionally.
This is one of the most interesting concepts in learning success with women, so go ahead and give it a try!
Remember:
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Flirting or jokingly challenging is intuitive and we do it with people we feel comfortable with.
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Push pull is any form of statement, action, or mannerism that simultaneously pushes and emotionally pushes a person away.
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Nudges go beyond words as they are mostly in subcommunication.
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Flirting is important when meeting girls, and mainly in a cold approach, since when learning to flirt, the girl needs to feel arousal so that her attention stays on you for a long period of time and so that you can carry on the interaction.