Lighting a unity candle is sometimes incorporated into wedding ceremonies to symbolize two lives coming together as one. In the early days, the love between husband and wife radiates but after a while it begins to wane with every discussion, misunderstanding, and challenge that life brings. Marriages are not packed suddenly, it is a gradual process. It is vital that both parties are determined to make the marriage work. Both parties and neither party should commit to making it work and keeping the love aflame in the marriage.

The marriage begins after the wedding, the day both parties enrolled in the marriage institution for life to learn and get to know each other. A man’s needs differ from a woman’s, as highlighted in the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. This article is intended to look at a man’s needs that, when satisfied, will keep him interested and will never get enough of his wife.

Honor and respect

  1. The ego of man needs to be constantly fed. His ego is not the same as pride, but a characteristic in which his manhood and his importance are anchored. The woman demands, hopes and requires that the man at least say ‘I love you’ several times a day. You need hugs, gifts, flowers, and physical expressions of love like holding hands in public. But how often do women make the same effort to feed a man’s ego by honoring and respecting him? As mentioned above, both parties need to commit to making the relationship work. It would be unfair and unfair for one party to put in all the effort while the other was basking in love.
  2. The man must love his wife, the woman must respect and honor the man as the head of the home and its covering. In my opinion, a man would rather be respected and honored than loved. That’s why men like titles: Dr. A, Prof. B, Reverend Dr. Chief C, or Honorable D. The problem with man is his importance. It is commonplace for men to get involved with their secretaries at work. Why? Because, among other things, they honor and respect them as bosses.
  3. Mike Murdock in his ‘Wisdom Keys’ said that a man would refuse to follow a painful experience. If your home only reminds you of pain and dishonor, you will seek overtime at work and take extra shifts just to avoid going home. You will probably prefer spending time with your friends or hanging out at the pub.
  4. Honor and respect is a key theme in men. Feed your ego and establish its meaning. Therefore, the wife should give higher priority to finding ways to honor and respect her husband than to love him.

Some practical ways to show honor and respect include:

  • In preparing the table of kings, the route to the heart of man is said to pass through his stomach. Prepare his food and serve him as you imagine a king would be served.
  • Talk to the king in it. Sarah called Abraham her lord. Talk to the king in man all the time. Exaggerate your successes, achievements, and victories and minimize your failures, failures, and mistakes.
  • Speak highly of him to your friends, parents, and siblings. Constantly confirms your authority, especially at home.
  • Be the help to know what it was created for. Find ways to help you fulfill your dreams, ambitions, and aspirations – cheerfully and not reluctantly.

Dress to kill

Has anyone heard of the phrase “Dress to kill”? Remember the days of your dates, when you did everything you could to get their attention. The hours you spent shopping for pretty clothes, shoes, and accessories for that date. Just as you would monitor any major financial investment you make, you must constantly make sure to keep your man interested. It would take what you did to get their attention to keep their attention. You should not rest the oars now that you have it and you have the ring on your fingers. Someone else will get your attention sooner than expected.

At work you see well-dressed ladies, colleagues, and clients, but upon arriving looking tired and shabby. Perhaps she must have been busy tidying up the house, taking care of the children, and doing the housework, but the husband’s need is not yet satisfied. He may appreciate the work and the things you’ve done, but his love tank is in the red. Men are visually stimulated! You need to see what you want and where you are going. Then you can understand why men are sometimes picky about weight loss and also riddled with porn.

The woman should seek, as far as possible, new ways to keep her full attention. Some of which may include the following:

  • Hit the stores and get sexy lingerie, uniforms, and accessories to spice things up.
  • Learn the tricks of the trade. There are tons of books and resources you can get to non-pornographic information. Discover your fantasies and tell them. I think they will not be strangers. Grab him and make sure he’s well-fed at home so he doesn’t seek satisfaction elsewhere.
  • Great him at the door warmly with a kiss and a hug. Make them feel welcome.
  • When you are together at home, dress and make up appropriately, as if you were going out. If you can do that to go to work for other people to praise you, don’t you think you should do more for your husband?
  • Visit the hairdressers regularly. At some point you will start to notice the new hairstyles and you will probably start to pay for them.
  • Brush and wash properly and regularly.

Be a pillar and not a caterpillar

A man needs help and support even if he does not express or admit it. The woman was created and designed to be this help. When man was created, the first thing he saw was his work; garden maintenance. When she became a woman, the first thing she experienced was relationship and family. The man thus obtains satisfaction from his work and labor, while the woman obtains satisfaction in relationships and family. However, the world economy has required women to keep men working and contributing to household income. This gesture should complement the effort of man and not serve as a way to compete with him.

You need family support and a commitment to help raise children properly. You need a shoulder to lean on. Men may not shed tears, but they cry and hurt deeply. It is often expressed with anger rather than suspicion. A woman needs pampering, reassuring words and comfort in her moments of despair and pain, and so does the man.

When the man is suffering it is not the time for the woman to demand a reason for his anger, but a time to comfort, reassure and support him. She could accomplish this as follows:

  • Without questioning the basis of his anger in that instant. If you cannot discern from immediate past events, you should save it for a later time when the situation has alleviated.
  • Without minimizing your pain. Show genuine interest in her pain, even if it doesn’t make sense to you.
  • Be patient and take care of it. Don’t leave him alone in frustration. Give her a listening ear and respond with soft, gentle, and reassuring statements of love and support.
  • Tactfully determine the right time to hug or cuddle him. Maybe when the situation is a little quiet.
  • In peacetime, find out what caused your pain and help prevent the situation from happening again.

These are guidelines and not hard and fast rules. Every marriage is different, but in time you will be able to understand each other if you are committed to the marriage. I cannot stress enough that both parties must participate. The wife should not expect the man to strive to love and keep the love aflame without reciprocating the gesture. It is a team effort and both parties must work as a team. Keep an eye out for the wife’s prospects to keep the love aflame in a future post.

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