Here’s a question … what do you think a “strong woman” does to inspire her man to be so great? I have a theory, let me share it with you …
If you want your man to be the best he can be, get to the point where you see MORE potential in him than he sees in HIMSELF. Be the girl who inspires him to greatness.
If you do this correctly, he will be deeply moved because you see potential in him that no one else sees …
Everyone else sees the opposite. You will give it a strength that it will not find anywhere else, so it will latch onto you for that strength …
… In a good way, until he believes in its potential himself.
Why do guys like this?
Every man secretly wants to be the champion of his own conquest. Think about it, how much do they like sports, competition, etc.? Secretly, we all want to be the heroes of our own adventure story, but we live in a society that says we can’t.
Everyone is scheduled for half their life. We live in a society where people would rather watch television over an epic adventure than go out and live one.
Society promotes mediocrity from all angles …
Tony Robbins and Brian Tracy are two self-help giants, whom I highly admire and recommend. They deeply influenced my thinking about the concept of expecting the best in other people.
Brian Tracy talks specifically about the law of expectations on his show, “The Psychology of Achievement.” Basically, the law states that you live up to the expectations you have for yourself and other people have for you, no matter how high or low they are.
In support of this law, he also provides several scientific studies that support this theory, including one conducted in the 1970s where teachers at a school were secretly convinced that the state’s most gifted children were being given, and as a result teachers . they were so motivated to teach them well that the school became the best school in the district.
The law of expectation works, because it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you are convinced enough of something, you will find all kinds of evidence to back it up. This is also why seeing the worst in people is so destructive.
A girlfriend who is extremely jealous and controlling is much more likely to be cheated on, because she creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. Finally, the opportunity to cheat comes and the boy thinks, “Well … she thinks I’m cheating anyway …” and he does …
The same applies when viewing your boyfriend’s high potential. Note that the quote at the beginning of this post did not say, “behind every great man, there is a nagging girl who drove him crazy …”
Start looking for the best in your boyfriend. Look for the excellence of your man, not his weaknesses. Here are some tips to make this strategy work big for you:
- Do not do this insincerely or it will backfire. You have to really believe in the other person. Build an unshakable conviction that even he can’t shake.
- You build your conviction on it by convincing yourself that it has potential in a specific area. Think about the logical reasons why your boyfriend can be a star. A good sign that you’ve convinced yourself is when you’re surprised that he doesn’t see his potential the way you do.
- Don’t be shocked when he behaves in a way that you KNOW is substandard. There are two sides to each corner. If you know that one standard is worth, you also know that it is better than another.
- Believe in him so much that even if he’s tossing the ball in that area of life, you can still have faith. This does not mean that you overlook the shortcomings. You can still call him when he drops the ball. But believing in your boyfriend can help you forgive him when he screw up, and it also helps you have faith that he’ll get back on track.
This is huge. I personally use this strategy with all my friends. I have found that my friends go out of their way to be loyal to me. The more I expect the best from my friends, the more things they do and say to let me know that they are my friends for life. Due to the deep faith I have in everyone around me, my friends, particularly my girlfriend and other girls I’ve been with in the past, have said that they will never forget me and that they never want to stop being my friends. . friend.